No excuses

It’s almost the end of July and before we can blink it will be the end of the sailing season.

It’s a time that’s always a little bit sad for me, a bit like coming to the end of your lollypop when you’re a kid. But it’s also tinged with some wonderful memories of the summer just gone, and many are the stories of the deep that will be told among sailing friends as we toast each other and Neptune on terra firma over the Christmas period to come.

Having a boat is not just an idol whim as far as I’m concerned, nor either is it a status symbol as it is for many. Boat-owning and sailing is an affair of the heart, plain and simple. I deeply, passionately adore sailing – I don’t really know why, and I don’t have to know why. If I could only get afloat in a bathtub I’d be out there.

All I know is that as soon as I step on board a boat I feel immediately I’m in my element. I feel right at home, completely in my comfort zone. Maybe it’s because I’m a Piscean, which makes me a fish at heart.

Now I’ve said this many a time and I’ll say it again: Do what you love, love what you do. Get out there and do it, whatever it is that floats your boat. And don’t let me hear anyone say, “oooh your so lucky to have a boat…” As I’ve also said many times before, luck has very little to do with it. You choose what you want in your life and you do anything and everything to make it happen. If I’d have loved skiing I’d have spent my money on skis. If I’d loved mountaineering I’d have spent my money on climbing gear. As it is, I spent my hard earned dosh on learning to sail and buying a boat. That’s what money is for.

There are no excuses. Either you get out there and do what you love or you spend your one and only lifetime regretting that you didn’t. What a waste! I’m saying this because I want to share my joy. If you do what you love your life will be filled with awe, wonder and enjoyment and it’s available to everyone.

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Pride comes before a fall

Whether you like her or not, I can’t help feeling sorry for Mother Theresa (Theresa May, that is).

She was handed a poisoned chalice when former Prime Minister, David Cameron, resigned after misjudging his idea to have a referendum about leaving the EU, she was saddled with implementing a policy she didn’t believe in (before the referendum she campaigned in favour of remaining in the EU), and she thought she was high in the popularity ratings and as a result misjudged her notion to call a general election to “achieve a stronger mandate” for herself before carrying out the Brexit negotiations.

In my opinion, she was perceived as arrogant in assuming her main opposition was unelectable and that she could bank on an increased majority. The British electorate does not like being expected to collude in any politician’s arrogance. Now she has created even more confusion and uncertainty. Plus ca change, plus c’est la meme chose, as the French would say.

Just shows you what can happen if you try to do something huge (Brexit) that you don’t believe in.

It would have been much more in keeping with the behaviour of the Impeccable Warrior if, after the referendum and Cameron’s resignation, she simply said, “sorry, I don’t believe in Brexit so I’ll hand over the reins to somebody who does.” I’m sure there would have been plenty of takers.

I do believe we are ready for some political leaders who behave with integrity. In fact, that would be a huge relief. Is there anybody suitable on the horizon?

 

Why worry?

Somebody recently sent me this:

Do you have a problem in your life? > No. > Then why worry?

Do you have a problem in your life? > Yes > Can you do something about it? > Yes. > Then why worry?

Do you have a problem in your life? > Yes > Can you do something about it? > No. > Then why worry?

Brilliant! I love it!

What’s the point?

Outrageous!

I still thank my lucky stars I was born in the UK, and I’m still so proud to be a Londoner!

We’re just about to have a free and fair general election and if they (whoever “they” might be) believe they can intimidate us Londoners into running scared they’ve got another think coming! Last week it was sympathy and sadness for Manchester, now it’s anger for London.

It’s taken centuries for our free democracy to evolve and our equal voting rights to develop and we still have many problems to solve. But despite the blandishments of our misguided political leaders, at least we are gradually progressing along a path of trying to solve them and work for a better, fairer society. Then this happens. How long will it take for all the people of the world to evolve to a higher level of consciousness?

There are so many questions. Can anyone please tell me, what is the point of this mindless violence? What does it achieve? If an innocent man, woman or child dies in London, does that really help anyone’s cause? I don’t get it. Have we lost all respect for one another in this so-called enlightened age? Is it really that difficult to learn to co-exist with our brothers and sisters, no matter what their religious or political beliefs?

It beggars belief but this, it seems, is what we have come to.

Talking is the only way

Sitting here post Manchester feeling really, really sad.

What on earth can we do to end the horrendous and seemingly endless cycles of violence going on all over the world?

How about starting by talking to each other? It’s the only way.

Is it really that hard for a Jew and an Arab to communicate? or an American and an Iraqi? Unless we learn to understand each other, tolerate each others’ differences and learn to co-exist on the same planet, we will never end violence and we will remain in a perpetual state of mourning.

I am so fed up with hearing about limiting immigrants to the UK, or building walls between the USA and Mexico. How will that help anything? It’s just postponing the inevitable. When are we going to learn to trust each other? It’s the only way.

The IRA and the UK Government managed it. The post-apartheid South African regime managed it. True, the latter has certainly not brought about and end to violence in South Africa, but it’s a beginning and it will take a long time and maybe many generations for wounds to heal and society to balance itself. Nelson Mandela and the Archbishop Desmond Tutu and at least led by example.

Hey Donald – fancy showing some real statesmanship and giving it a go???

The third certainty in life

Benjamin Franklin I think it was said there are only two certainties in life, death and taxes. But if you lived with the woman I’m marrying on Sunday you’d know there is a third inevitable certainty – adventure. She’s not a woman to let the grass grow and I love that.

The late Indian guru Osho once said, “life should be a flow from the known towards the unknown,” and it certainly is that. Sunday we’re off into the unknown again, miles out of my comfort zone, and probably hers too. Who ever said life was dull? Certainly not me!

A friend said to me recently, “don’t worry, you’ve been living together for 21 years. Life will just carry on the same after your wedding”.

Of course it won’t. Life is constantly changing, hence the mystery and the endless fascination. “Bring it on,” says I.